Sunday, October 24, 2010

A Long Overdue Update

Sorry it has been so long since our last update. Each time we sit down to write, we don't know what to say....should we say how bad some of our days really are? Should we say sometimes we lose hope? Do we say that we can't stand our life with cancer?

Here we are 19 months into this journey and we are worn down and tired. We are often confused about the treatments and their effects. In July, after 16 months of intense treatment, Elena's counts struggled for weeks to recover. In August, we moved into the "maintenance" phase of treatment. This final phase was supposed to be "easy". It has not been.

As it has been with most of Elena's treatments, she doesn't just have the "usual" side effects, she has the more "unusual" ones too! True, Elena only has to go to the clinic once a month for chemo now rather than every seven to ten days. But, the battles we fight now pale in comparison to making multiple clinic visits.

Starting middle school is a big adjustment for many kids. Add to that trying to handle the physical, emotional, and cognitive effects of treatment and it can be an awful combination at times.
In the past month, we started seeing a great psychologist at Aflac to help with the emotional side of dealing with cancer and change. Elena also had an MRI last month. It showed that her brain has been affected by the chemo she has been receiving to her brain and spine. These changes have impacted her short term memory and her ability to process and retrieve information. This has affected her at school and at home. So, Elena has been dealing with starting middle school, not understanding her classwork or homework, and new side effects from new chemo during this new phase of treatment: weight gain, a rash on her face, peeling skin on her fingers and toes, and not being able to do things she was once able to do both mentally and physically.

All of these emotions and feelings have meant having some really bad days. The weight of it all has taken a toll on all four of us. At times, we wonder if we really will make it through the next 10 months. Though we doubt and question all of this, we still try to stop and remember the good things in our lives: a sweet kiss, the warmth of the sun, pizza nights, a laugh or a giggle, one peaceful moment. We also remind ourselves where our hearts and hope lie; in God.

Chris Tomlin's song, "Our God", says it perfectly,

Our God is greater

Our God is stronger
God you are higher than any other
Our God is Healer

Awesome in power

Our God, Our God

So, we keep on going, day by day, and our hope remains in Him,
The Tates


  1. so sorry you guys are having such a rough time. Your family stays in my prayers, and all of you are on the prayer list at church (Red Oak UMC).

    hugs & prayers to all of you

  2. I think an honest update, is the best kind of update! You can't sugar coat, Cancer, right? I hope it gets better and easier. You and Mark can and will do it! Give the girls hugs from us. Ellison still asks about "Livey" everytime we get ready to do to BeBe's! Love to all of you. Kriston

  3. it's hard to admit when things are tough isn't it? it doesn't mean you can't do it and it certaintly doesnt mean you are doing it alone. I'm sure you feel like that at times, but know that so many are praying for your family to have strength and peace about the situtation. Not just in the big picture, but each day or even each hour! we love yall!

  4. Praying for you guys......can't say anything other than this!
    Hugs ~

  5. Christy - this was beautifully written. Thank you for sharing with us all about the downs as well as the ups. The realities of childhood cancer are important for us all to remember. It will surely motivate us to press forward in finding a cure for our children!! SO glad to have seen you at the Beads of Courage party. I love you! Heather